The good enough marriage

From Oprah.com:

You don’t need NFL training to hurl a pizza across a New York City apartment. I found this out as I ducked to avoid my husband’s dinner (he didn’t fling it at me, he claims). “They folded the slices,” he bellowed. “Ruined.” I bit my tongue hard — but not, unfortunately, before “Did you lose your nappies?” slipped out (nappies being what they call diapers in England, which is where he’s from and where, at this point, I was wishing he had stayed). Big mistake. He went off like a car alarm, the honk-honk-beeeep-honk of his tirade so familiar, I’d long since learned to tune it out by doing guided imagery

What is guided imagery?

Freedom beckons intoxicatingly, but then I wonder if my expectations aren’t unrealistic — whether I’ve got the makings of a good marriage but am foolishly holding out for perfect. Paul Amato, Ph.D., professor of sociology, demography, and family studies at Penn State, conducted a 20-year study on 2,000 subjects who started off married, and says 55 to 60 percent of divorcing couples discard unions with real potential.

At the point when someone is throwing a pizza around the house, possibly at you, I think you can safely say the marriage is broken. One of the many issues that got lost in the Tiger Woods saga was the domestic violence, if you have ever been with someone that would come after you with a golf-club(which I have) the the temptation to cheat just to be around someody normal is pretty high; and normal can just mean somebody who isn’t violent.
The obsession with staying in bad marriages seems to be an outgrowth of our child worshipping culture where couples think they should stay together for the children. I doubt keeping children in a situation where they get to observe adults acting in a violent or childish manner all their lives is good for them, and it certainly isn’t good for the adults in the family either.